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A Dreamer Named Jama

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Jama—Jay-muh. Most people called her Mama Jama. I just called her Mom.

She had a way of leaving an impression. Even Oprah Winfrey once mentioned her name in an endorsement for a book. But long before that, and long after, my mom’s impact wasn’t just measured by fame or recognition. It was in the lives she touched, the ones she rescued, and the love she gave so freely.

Today, February 13, 2025, she would have turned 67. But cancer took her 15 months ago—too soon, too fast, too unfair. It still doesn’t feel real.

She lived for something bigger than herself. Providing unconditional love, unconditional service, and a future full of hope wasn’t just her mission—it was who she was. And today, I’m reflecting on the weight of that.

Her Dream

My mom was a rescuer. If something or someone was broken, she ran toward them, not away. She took in abandoned animals, nursed them back to life, gave them a safe place to belong. But it wasn’t just animals—she did the same for people. The forgotten, the struggling, the ones with nowhere to go. She made room for them. She gave them love without conditions. She served without needing recognition, at least not to much(lol). And she always saw hope—even when no one else did.

That was my mom.

Her Fight

She was strong-willed. If she believed something, there was no shaking her conviction. When she knew God had spoken, she stood on it—no matter how impossible it seemed. She wasn’t perfect. She had her flaws, her battles. But I’ve come to realize that when you dream as big as she did, there’s always something to fight through. Always something trying to stop you.

She never let that stop her.

Her Ark

Noah’s Ark was her life’s work—a sanctuary where love and healing weren’t just ideas; they were real. It was a place where animals and people alike could find refuge, safety, and hope.

It was beautiful. It was needed. And then—it was gone. The Ark sank.

Dreams are fragile things.

Noah’s Ark was taken from her, betrayed by those she trusted. The sanctuary crumbled. The animals disappeared. The people drifted away. The dream she built with her whole heart was twisted into something unrecognizable. And in the aftermath of it all, I can’t help but wonder—was this the final wound that took her?

I watched my mom carry the weight of that fight, and I know in my heart it’s what truly took her. Cancer may have been the diagnosis, but the Ark—that was the real wound.

Her Legacy

Even now, with the Ark gone and my mom no longer here, her mission still calls.

Unconditional love. Unconditional service. A future full of hope.

That’s what she lived for, and that’s what I hope to carry forward. To rescue when I can. To love people where they are. To serve even when it’s hard. To believe in hope, even when everything feels lost.

Because if my mom taught me anything, it’s that love doesn’t die. Even when the Ark sinks. Even when dreams seem shattered.

Her dream still lives in me maybe in you. And I pray we can honor it.

Average Joe

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(AI image is a trip lol)

The term Average Joe describes an ordinary person. Not a superhero. Not a headline-maker. Just… normal. The dictionary defines average as something typical, standard, or unremarkable. And that’s exactly how the world sees most of us—ordinary, predictable, nothing to write home about. No Netflix series. No book deal. Just another person going through life.

But let’s be real—our culture loves a breakout story. We’re drawn to the underdog who defies the odds, the kid who smashes records, the nobody who suddenly becomes somebody. The viral success story. The lottery winner. So inspiring! And then, with a touch of sarcasm, we return to our own “average” lives.

But what if average isn’t such a bad thing?

From my experience, average is actually a solid benchmark. There are countless “average” parents who keep showing up, day after day, raising their kids with love and patience. There are plenty of “average” athletes who are disciplined, intentional, and committed to their health. And there are a whole lot of people who go the extra mile—not for applause, but because they care.

Maybe it’s time we redefine average.

Average isn’t about being mediocre—it’s about consistently showing up and doing what matters. It’s making the tough decisions. It’s choosing kindness. It’s putting in the effort, even when no one is watching. It’s the everyday stuff that actually makes life meaningful.

I don’t need to be called a superhero to be a good friend.
I don’t need a cape to show up for someone in need.
I don’t need superhuman strength to take care of my health.

Maybe you’re stronger, richer, or better-looking than me. So what!

I’m just going to keep showing up, doing what’s necessary—maybe even a little extra. And when it’s all said and done, I have a feeling this “average Joe” is going to do just fine.

Who Am I Becoming? (And Do I Even Like That Person?)

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Ever stop and ask yourself, Who am I becoming? Not just in a passing, random-thought kind of way, but in a sit-with-it-and-really-think kind of way? It’s a powerful question—one that can change everything.

Because here’s the truth: we are always becoming someone. Every decision, every habit, every reaction is shaping us into the person we’re becoming. The real question is: Do we like that person?

The good news? If the answer is not really—or even not at all—we can change that. Growth isn’t just possible; it’s part of what we’re made for. So let’s do some honest reflection (the real life hack) and check in on the direction we’re heading.

1. Am I Living in the Victim’s Chair or Owning My Power?

Life can be unfair. People can be unfair. Circumstances can make us feel stuck. But here’s the deal: the moment I start believing I have no control, I give away my power.

Yes, bad things happen. Yes, some challenges are real and difficult. But am I focusing only on what’s happening to me—or am I choosing to believe in what’s possible for me?

You are not powerless. You are not stuck. You are stronger than you think.

2. Is My Personality Helping Me or Holding Me Back?

We all have natural tendencies—some that serve us well, and others that, well… don’t. If I constantly say, That’s just how I am!—but that “way” is keeping me from my purpose—then maybe it’s time for a change.

Your personality isn’t fixed. You’re not locked into old habits or reactions. Growth starts with awareness, and change is always possible. You can build the kind of personality that supports the life you actually want. That’s your superpower.

(And if you’re thinking, “But I don’t even know my purpose yet,” don’t stress—that’s another conversation for another day. You’ll get there.)

3. Am I Stuck in the Past or Focused on the Future?

The past can be a teacher or a trap. It’s easy to replay old successes or failures, but if I spend too much time looking backward, I’ll miss what’s ahead.

Your future is too important to be neglected. The best days aren’t behind you—they’re in front of you. Build on what’s come before, but don’t live there. There is so much more for you.

4. Are My Relationships Helping Me Grow or Keeping Me Stuck?

We become like the people we surround ourselves with. So, are my relationships pushing me forward or pulling me down? Do the people in my life challenge, encourage, and support me? And just as importantly—am I that kind of person for them?

Healthy relationships require investment, but they also require discernment. Don’t be afraid to adjust your circle. Sometimes, growth means letting go of relationships that keep you small.

5. Who Will I Be in 3 Months? 3 Years? 30 Years?

Imagine your future self—three months from now, three years, thirty years. Are you proud of the person you see? Are you on track to become the best version of yourself?

If not, here’s the exciting part: you have the power to change direction. Small decisions today shape the big picture of tomorrow. You don’t have to be perfect—you just have to be intentional.

Like Michael Jackson said:

“I’m starting with the man in the mirror,
I’m asking him to change his ways…”

The best version of you is not out of reach. It’s already inside you—waiting to grow. So take a deep breath, reflect, and step forward with confidence.

You are becoming someone incredible or you can! Keep going.

Ordinary Rosa

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Rightfully so, we honor Rosa Parks with words like hero, revolutionary, icon, legend, and trailblazer. And she was all of these—no doubt. But here’s the part we often overlook: Rosa Parks was also ordinary.

Before December 1, 1955, before the Montgomery bus, before history etched her name into the pages of change, Rosa lived a life that looked a lot like ours. She went to school but had to leave early to care for her family. She worked regular jobs—cleaning houses, caring for others, sewing as a seamstress, and later as an office assistant. She enjoyed simple things: going to church, spending time with family and friends, and living quietly with a calm, steady spirit.

Why does this matter?

Because as author Parker Palmer wisely said,
“We can put her up on a pedestal and praise her, world without end, never finding ourselves challenged by her life.”

When we elevate Rosa to superhuman status, we risk missing the most powerful part of her story: her humanity. We create distance, convincing ourselves that she was “special,” “different,” or “extraordinary”—as if courage belongs only to the chosen few. But the truth is, she was ordinary—just like you, just like me.

And that’s exactly what makes her story so powerful.

Rosa Parks was an ordinary woman who took a simple stand—one that seemed small in the moment but changed history forever.

I don’t think she didn’t set out to become a legend. She simply refused to give up her seat because she was tired—not just physically, but tired of a system that was broken, unjust, and dehumanizing. Her quiet “no” became a resounding “yes” to justice, equality, and hope.

So, what does that mean for us?

It means your ordinary life can impact a broken system.
It means you don’t have to be famous, fearless, or flawless to make a difference.
It means the small stand you take today—the simple “no” to injustice, the quiet “yes” to kindness—can ripple into something far greater than you ever imagined.

Let Rosa Parks’ ordinary inspire your ordinary.
Because sometimes, the most extraordinary change begins with the courage to do something simple.

Can You Do It with Pain?

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“Those who plant in tears will harvest with shouts of joy. They weep as they go to plant their seed, but they sing as they return with the harvest.”
— Psalms 126:5-6

I wish life were filled with nothing but happy endings. Wouldn’t that be great? The guy always gets the girl. You buy the winning lottery ticket. You conquer every battle. You ride off into the perfect sunset on a beautiful horse, with the wind at your back and not a care in the world. It’s the stuff of fairytales.

But that’s not real life, is it?

In reality, sometimes the pain feels like it’s winning. The tears seem to come more often than the laughter. You try everything you can, give it your best effort, pour out your heart—and still, it doesn’t work out the way you hoped. The relationship falls apart. The dream dies. The healing doesn’t come. The doors stay closed.

The pain of life is real.

I’ve felt it. I’ve been there—in the dark places where disappointment echoes louder than hope, where grief seems to have the final word. And to be honest, I don’t connect well with people who pretend that life is always wrapped up in neat, happy endings. It’s hard to relate to someone who acts like they’ve never struggled, never questioned, never wept.

Because life is hard. It breaks us sometimes.

And if we’re not careful, pain can do more than hurt us—it can trap us. We start to believe that we are nothing more than our brokenness, victims of circumstances we can’t control. It’s easy to feel stuck, immobilized by heartache, weighed down by disappointment. When that happens, any movement feels impossible. And if we do move, it’s often backwards—slipping into old habits, reaching for temporary fixes to numb the ache, doing whatever we can to avoid feeling the weight of it all.

But here’s the thing: you can move forward, even with the pain.

That’s what gripped me about Psalm 126. We often rush to the second part of the verse—“shouts of joy,” “singing,”—because we long for that. We crave the harvest, the breakthrough, the victory. But don’t miss the beginning. Don’t overlook the tears.

“Those who plant in tears will harvest with shouts of joy.”

The joy doesn’t come instead of the pain. It comes through it.
The harvest isn’t the reward for avoiding sorrow. It’s the result of showing up in spite of it.

These verses describe people who didn’t wait until their hearts were healed to start planting. They didn’t pause their lives until the pain passed. No—they planted while they wept. They carried their grief in one hand and their seeds in the other. They kept moving forward, step by aching step, with tears streaming down their faces. They didn’t wait for joy to start working; they worked their way toward joy.

And that’s what courage looks like.
It’s not the absence of pain—it’s the determination to move through it.

I deeply admire people who live like that. The ones who carry their grief like a heavy backpack, yet still manage to put one foot in front of the other. The ones who show up, even when it hurts. The ones who keep planting, keep trying, keep believing—not because it’s easy, but because giving up isn’t an option.

Maybe that’s you. Maybe today, you’re doing it with pain. You’re loving your family through heartbreak. You’re working hard while grieving losses no one sees. You’re holding onto hope with shaky hands.

I want you to know this: you are not stuck.
You are not a victim of your pain.
You are moving forward—slowly, maybe—but forward nonetheless.

Your tears are not a sign of weakness. They are the water that softens the soil where your seeds will grow.

So, keep planting.
Keep walking.
Keep believing.

Joy is coming. Not because the pain will magically disappear, but because you’re doing the sacred, courageous work of living through it. One day, the same ground you wept over will burst forth with life. And you’ll sing—not because the road was easy, but because you did it anyway.

Joy comes.
Just keep moving.

Faster in My Mind 🚴‍♂️💨

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When I was a kid, I was convinced I was the fastest person on a bike. I’d fly down the street, neighbors would watch in awe (at least in my mind), and I just knew I was the undisputed champion of my street. Granted, no one else was riding—but hey, a win is a win!

Now, nearly 50, I exercise not to be the fastest, but to be me. I work out to stay strong—not just for today, but for the years ahead.

I love a challenge. I’m competitive. I’m a fighter. And if I’m being honest, I usually think I’m stronger and faster than I actually am. Which, as you might guess, doesn’t always end well. I’ll see someone crushing it on a bike and think, Oh yeah, I can do that too. Then reality hits… hard.

But the older I get, the more self-aware I become. And these three ideas keep me moving forward:

1. You Choose the Hard

Sitting on the couch? Hard. Being out of shape? Hard. Struggling with health? Hard. Riding a bike or lifting weights? Also hard. The difference? Some things you can’t control, but a lot you can. So I choose to embrace the hard that makes me stronger.

2. Set My Sights

What does progress look like for me?

  • Can I push 1% past my last effort?
  • Can I hit an 8-minute mile? (For the record, I hate running. Current best? 8:47.)
  • In my Peloton class, can I crack the top 5%?

Small benchmarks keep me moving forward.

3. Compete Against Myself

I don’t need to be the fastest or the strongest—just better than I was yesterday. One more rep. An extra lap. A little more effort than before.

I’m not here to break records—I’m here to keep showing up. To stay focused. To embrace the challenge. And to get just a little bit better, every day.

My go-to movements? Cycling, lifting, and (begrudgingly) running.

What keeps you moving?

Sharing Well: Why It’s More Than Just a Childhood Lesson

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Remember when we were kids, and every adult in our lives constantly reminded us to share?
“Share your toys.”
“Share your snack.”
“Share with your little brother—yes, even when he just licked it.”

Sharing was a basic expectation, a fundamental rule of playground diplomacy. But then something weird happens when we grow up: Nobody reminds us to share anymore. And, as a result, many of us stop doing it—or at least, we do it a whole lot less.

But here’s the thing: Maybe sharing isn’t just some childhood obligation. Maybe it’s something we need more as adults. Maybe, just maybe, we actually have more to share than ever before.

The Science of Sharing: Why It’s Actually Good for You

Let’s get a few things straight: Sharing isn’t just for kids, and it’s not just about being polite. It turns out that generosity is deeply wired into who we are as human beings. Here’s why sharing matters:

1. Sharing Creates the “Helper’s High”

Yes, this is a real thing! Studies show that when we give to others—whether it’s time, resources, or even just kindness—our brain releases feel-good chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin. It’s basically nature’s way of rewarding generosity. So if you’ve ever felt a little boost after helping someone out, that’s not a coincidence—that’s science.

2. Sharing Fosters Connection

Let’s face it: We are social creatures. We thrive on connection, and sharing is one of the easiest ways to build relationships. Whether it’s sharing a meal, a laugh, or even just a moment of understanding, these little acts of generosity create bonds that make life richer.

3. Sharing is Good for Your Mental Health

Multiple studies have shown that when we engage in acts of kindness—like volunteering, donating, or simply being generous—it reduces stress, lowers depression, and increases life satisfaction. In short, giving doesn’t just help others; it makes your life better too.

So… Do We Really Need to Be Told to Share?

Maybe not. Maybe it’s just something we need to choose to do. And the best part? Sharing doesn’t have to be complicated. You don’t have to donate thousands of dollars (you can if you got it like that) or give away all your belongings to make a difference. Sometimes, the simplest things mean the most.

Here are a few things we can all share easily:

✅ A kind word (cost: $0, impact: huge)
✅ A smile (scientifically proven to be contagious)
✅ A meal (because food always brings people together)
✅ A shoulder (for those days when life gets heavy)
✅ A helping hand (because everybody needs somebody)

Of course, money and resources can be shared too, but generosity isn’t just about what’s in your wallet—it’s about what’s in your heart.

Share Well Today

At Sharing Well Inc., we believe that sharing is more than just an action—it’s a lifestyle. Our mission is simple: ur mission is to empower the underserved by sharing transformative experiences and valuable resources. We strive to broaden horizons and inspire new possibilities, enabling someone to dream beyond their current circumstances.
We believe that when people share well, communities thrive.

So, what will you share today? Because the world doesn’t just need more things—it needs more people who share well.

Let’s make generosity a way of life. Let’s Share Well.

Trump’s 2nd Inauguration

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Well, my friends, I don’t know about you, but I had some thoughts after watching Trump’s second inauguration. It wasn’t just me sitting there in anticipation—although there was a good amount of curiosity in the air. My observations were more about the strange flip we’ve seen in politics, and I can’t help but chuckle at how things seem to have evolved.

The Tech Giants’ Big Flip

First off, let’s talk about the tech giants—you know, the ones who have spent the past few years banning Trump from their platforms and publicly condemning him. Suddenly, here they are, sitting on stage at his inauguration. It’s like the ultimate flip. One minute, they’re canceling you, and the next minute, they’re applauding you. It’s like if someone says, “I can’t stand you” and then a few years later, there asking you out on a date. I’m not sure what happened there, but it’s a shift that definitely stands out.

The Amount of Money… WOW

Another thing that really struck me was the sheer amount of money represented on that stage. I think the top 5 richest people in the world were in attendance. I’m always amazed by how much wealth there is in our world. It’s almost like there’s enough money on that stage to fund an entire space mission. It’s staggering. Wait, they have funded a space mission. The presence of so much wealth made me wonder—where is it all going? Could some of that money be used to help fix some of the broken systems? I also dream about what I would do with that kinda wealth? Just something to think about.

Perfection is Overrated

Now, the event wasn’t without its flaws—and that’s okay. Perfection shouldn’t be the goal. There were definitely some hiccups, like the audio issues and some awkward moments. But honestly, that’s part of what makes events like this feel more real. If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that no one and nothing is perfect. Maybe that’s something we could all take away, especially in politics—because it’s easy to think we need perfection, but what we really need is progress.

The Undoing: A Political Game

Trump’s speech could be summed up in just a few words: “Thank you. As your president, I will start working today. I will reverse, undo, change, everything that Biden has done. Thank you.” And honestly, that’s kind of the political vibe right now, isn’t it? It’s all about undoing. Undoing what the last administration did. It’s like a never-ending cycle. The question is—where’s the building? Where’s the forward progress? Maybe if we could work together, we could actually get something done. But who am I? Just a guy with some thoughts on the matter.

High Points: Pastor Sewell, Carrie Underwood, and Malina’s Hat

Now, let’s talk about the high points—because, even in a big event like this, there are always moments of brightness.

  • Pastor Lorenzo Sewell’s prayer was a true highlight. His node to MLK was inspiring. A powerful moment that stood out.
  • Carrie Underwood? Let’s just say her boss move was unforgettable. The music didn’t start, and there was a long pause of silence. Without missing a beat, Carrie just started singing, no background music, nothing. Talk about grace under pressure! That moment was truly impressive.
  • And Malina’s hat? Honestly, I’m not entirely sure what was going on there, but it had me chuckling. It was a look, and it was definitely memorable. Trump trying to kiss her under the hat was great!

Low Points: Poor President Biden, and Digital Currency After the Inauguration

Now, for the low points. I do feel for Biden, having to sit there and listen to a whole speech about undoing everything he’s done. It had to be a tough moment. It’s hard to sit in the front row of something and feel like you’re the target of the speech.

Also, Pastor Sewell launching a digital currency right after the inauguration? I don’t know—asking people to purchase it after such a significant moment just didn’t sit well with me. It felt a little off, to be honest.

Disclaimer: A Non-Voter’s Take

Oh, and before I get any hate mail (or raised eyebrows), let me clarify: I haven’t voted for a major party in years. I think our system is broken, and frankly, it needs Jesus. So, take this all with a grain of salt—I’m just an observer, trying to make sense of what’s happening in our world.

So, there it is, folks. My hot take on Trump’s second inauguration. It was an event, to say the least, and there was a lot to reflect on. What are your thoughts on this? Let me know in the comments!

Can We Change Our Default Disposition?

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We all have a default disposition, that “go-to” mood or attitude we tend to carry with us without much thought. For me, I like to think my default is one of peace and relaxation. After all, who doesn’t want to be the peaceful person who just lets things roll off their back, right? But the truth is, I can be stressed, negative, and demanding, and not always in the most graceful ways. It’s like I have this emotional rollercoaster that starts with a dip in patience and ends with a “what the heck is going on?!” moment.

I was listening to a sermon recently, and Pastor Jason asked a profound question that hit me hard: “What’s your default?” And if you’re like me, that question can make you pause. Because if your default is a bit less than desirable, you have to ask yourself: Can it be changed?

Can Our Default Be Changed?

The short answer is: yes, but it’s not going to be as easy as clicking a button. Changing your default is a process. It takes awareness, intention, and a whole lot of patience. And let’s be honest, that’s the tough part.

First, you have to become aware of what your default is. I mean, really aware. And trust me, this is no easy feat. It’s hard to look in the mirror and realize that your default reaction might not be the most flattering. You know, the one where you snap when you shouldn’t, or get stressed over things that aren’t worth stressing about? Yeah, that one.

“You can’t change what you are not willing to see.” – Steven Hedgecoth (I quoted myself, lol)

Ugh. That’s a tough truth. It’s easier to point out other people’s flaws than our own, but growth happens when we’re willing to look at ourselves honestly—even the parts we don’t like.

The Power of Being Intentional

Once you see it, the next step is being intentional about changing it. Now, this is where the magic (and the hard work) happens. It’s not about trying to be someone else. It’s about being your true self and trying something different. Intentionality means making a conscious choice to choose a different reaction. It means not just “reacting” to situations but deciding how you want to respond.

The key here is baby steps. You don’t have to change everything overnight. Just a small tweak in how you handle one situation can lead to a significant shift over time. It’s the little wins that build up and make a bigger difference.

And remember, it’s going to take time. Be patient with yourself. Just because you didn’t respond perfectly today doesn’t mean you won’t get better tomorrow. It’s about progress, not perfection.

We Are New Creations in Christ

The great news is, we don’t have to stay stuck in our defaults. Scripture reminds us that through Christ, we are new creations, and that transformation is possible:

“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” – 2 Corinthians 5:17 (NIV)

In Christ, we have the power to transform our habits, attitudes, and reactions. With God’s help, we can let go of old patterns and embrace the new life He offers.

Final Thoughts: Start Small, Think Big

If you don’t like your default, start with awareness. Own it, then slowly work to change it by being intentional. And most importantly—don’t expect perfection. Change takes time, but with patience, we can slowly rewrite our default disposition into one that reflects the best version of ourselves.

So, what’s your default? And are you ready to do the work it takes to change it? Let me know in the comments!

The Three Types of People Who Shape Our Lives

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Dreamers, Doers, and Stagnators

We all have dreams. Whether it’s a big career goal, a life-changing personal transformation, or a world-altering vision (like finally finding the perfect parking spot at Walmart), dreams are the fuel that drives us forward. However, not everyone is equally equipped to take action on these dreams. In fact, people tend to fall into three distinct categories: dreamers, doers, and stagnators. Understanding the strengths and challenges of each type can help us better navigate our personal journeys—and figure out how to stop binge-watching Netflix when we should be working on our goals.

Dreamers: Visionaries Who See the End Result

Dreamers are the visionaries of the world. They’re the ones who can see the big picture before anyone else does. Dreamers often live in the future, imagining what could be, and their minds are filled with endless possibilities—like starting a unicorn sanctuary or inventing a device that automatically folds laundry. While we may not all be aiming for unicorns (though, if you’re out there, let me know), dreamers have big ideas that push the boundaries of what’s possible.

“We are limited, not by our abilities, but by our vision.” – Anonymous

But here’s the catch—dreams are just the starting point. Dreamers need wisdom on how and when to share their dreams. Not every idea should be broadcast to the world immediately. Not everyone will get it—there’s a reason why some people said Thomas Edison was “wasting his time” before the light bulb invention became a game-changer. Dreamers need to find the right people to encourage their vision and help them take the first steps toward making their dreams a reality.

Every dreamer needs a doer. And this is where the doers step in.

Doers: The Builders Who See the Path

Doers are the ones who bring ideas to life. While dreamers envision the end result (hello, unicorn sanctuary), doers see the path to get there. Doers are the ones who put in the effort, take action, and focus on the practicalities. They love checking things off their to-do list and are often the ones leading the charge. Without doers, we’d still be stuck in the planning phase, with dreams floating around in the ether like that “one day” trip to the Grand Canyon we keep talking about.

“Action is the foundational key to all success.” – Pablo Picasso

Doers play a crucial role in helping dreamers transform their visions into concrete accomplishments. Every dreamer needs a doer to help them take action, break down the work, and actually do something. And every doer needs a dreamer to remind them why they’re working so hard. Without a dreamer, a doer might just end up mowing the lawn for the 12th time this week… which, hey, I’m not saying it’s a bad thing, but we could do with a bit more vision.

Stagnators: The Ones Who Are Stuck

And then we have the stagnators. Ah, the stagnators. These are the people who are stuck in a rut, unable to move forward, or paralyzed by fear or indecision. It’s like they’re in quicksand—every time they try to make progress, they just sink further. Unlike dreamers, they don’t have grand visions, and unlike doers, they don’t take action. Stagnators often find themselves in a state of inaction, whether out of fear, uncertainty, or sheer “Netflix and chill” mentality.

“Procrastination is the art of keeping up with yesterday.” – Don Marquis

Stagnators need a swift kickstart. A little push from a doer can get them moving again. Whether it’s a nudge to finally sign up for that marathon you’ve been talking about for years or help cleaning out the garage (yes, I’m looking at you), stagnators need a helping hand to get back on track. If you’re a stagnator, it’s time to stop binge-watching “how-to” videos on YouTube and actually try one of those tips yourself!

Stagnators need a doer to help them get unstuck. It could be something as simple as organizing a small task or setting a mini-goal. Once they start moving, it’s much easier for them to keep going. Sometimes, all it takes is someone else to show them the way.

Conclusion: We All Play a Role

The world needs all three types of people—dreamers, doers, and even stagnators—because each plays an essential role in shaping our lives and communities. Dreamers provide the vision, doers make it happen, and stagnators… well, they remind us not to get too comfortable sitting on the couch.

If you’re a dreamer, surround yourself with doers who can help you take action. If you’re a doer, connect with dreamers who can remind you of the bigger picture. And if you find yourself stuck as a stagnator, don’t hesitate to reach out to someone who can help you get back on your feet.

Dream big. Take action. And don’t let anything stop you from reaching your full potential.

“Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” – Robert Collier

So whether you’re dreaming, doing, or stuck, remember this: there’s always a path forward. And sometimes, that path is just a phone call away.

Books to Inspire Action and Overcome Stagnation:

  1. “The 5 Second Rule” by Mel Robbins – A simple, practical way to overcome procrastination and take action, fast.
  2. “Atomic Habits” by James Clear – A brilliant guide on how small, consistent actions lead to big results. (personal favorite) ******
  3. “Start with Why” by Simon Sinek – For dreamers and doers alike, understanding the “why” behind what you do will keep you focused and motivated.
  4. “Do the Work” by Steven Pressfield – A call to action for those struggling with resistance and procrastination.

Pick up a book, take action, and stop making excuses. You’ve got dreams to make real!