Ever stop and ask yourself, Who am I becoming? Not just in a passing, random-thought kind of way, but in a sit-with-it-and-really-think kind of way? It’s a powerful question—one that can change everything.
Because here’s the truth: we are always becoming someone. Every decision, every habit, every reaction is shaping us into the person we’re becoming. The real question is: Do we like that person?
The good news? If the answer is not really—or even not at all—we can change that. Growth isn’t just possible; it’s part of what we’re made for. So let’s do some honest reflection (the real life hack) and check in on the direction we’re heading.
1. Am I Living in the Victim’s Chair or Owning My Power?
Life can be unfair. People can be unfair. Circumstances can make us feel stuck. But here’s the deal: the moment I start believing I have no control, I give away my power.
Yes, bad things happen. Yes, some challenges are real and difficult. But am I focusing only on what’s happening to me—or am I choosing to believe in what’s possible for me?
You are not powerless. You are not stuck. You are stronger than you think.
2. Is My Personality Helping Me or Holding Me Back?
We all have natural tendencies—some that serve us well, and others that, well… don’t. If I constantly say, That’s just how I am!—but that “way” is keeping me from my purpose—then maybe it’s time for a change.
Your personality isn’t fixed. You’re not locked into old habits or reactions. Growth starts with awareness, and change is always possible. You can build the kind of personality that supports the life you actually want. That’s your superpower.
(And if you’re thinking, “But I don’t even know my purpose yet,” don’t stress—that’s another conversation for another day. You’ll get there.)
3. Am I Stuck in the Past or Focused on the Future?
The past can be a teacher or a trap. It’s easy to replay old successes or failures, but if I spend too much time looking backward, I’ll miss what’s ahead.
Your future is too important to be neglected. The best days aren’t behind you—they’re in front of you. Build on what’s come before, but don’t live there. There is so much more for you.
4. Are My Relationships Helping Me Grow or Keeping Me Stuck?
We become like the people we surround ourselves with. So, are my relationships pushing me forward or pulling me down? Do the people in my life challenge, encourage, and support me? And just as importantly—am I that kind of person for them?
Healthy relationships require investment, but they also require discernment. Don’t be afraid to adjust your circle. Sometimes, growth means letting go of relationships that keep you small.
5. Who Will I Be in 3 Months? 3 Years? 30 Years?
Imagine your future self—three months from now, three years, thirty years. Are you proud of the person you see? Are you on track to become the best version of yourself?
If not, here’s the exciting part: you have the power to change direction. Small decisions today shape the big picture of tomorrow. You don’t have to be perfect—you just have to be intentional.
Like Michael Jackson said:
“I’m starting with the man in the mirror,
I’m asking him to change his ways…”
The best version of you is not out of reach. It’s already inside you—waiting to grow. So take a deep breath, reflect, and step forward with confidence.
You are becoming someone incredible or you can! Keep going.